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Cake day: June 26th, 2025

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  • If it’s not a hassle to switch, then it would be worth trying. Everyone is different in how they react to things, and it’s okay to try a few just to see if you like one better

    I really preferred vyvanse to other stimulants, because I didn’t crash as soon as it wore off. But I struggled with how long it lasted in a day, and kept going back to Adderall because that was easier to control

    You didn’t ask this, but I’m on clonidine now and it’s everything I wanted out of an ADHD med plus it helps with anxiety. And, I can have coffee again without feeling like my heart is going to fly away lol. Just mentioning that to point back to my first paragraph, what works for me might not work for the next person and vice versa






  • Maybe stop trying to use words. Use colors or textures, make a little posterboard and work through what looks or feels right in her head. Meaning, if dark blue means she’s scared, or if green means she’s frustrated that’s okay. Don’t just go with red= angry if that didn’t feels right for her. Let her use as many colors or textures as she needs to get her point across.

    It’s also really important to include what she wants from you on this board. Like, just shut up for an hour, or hold her, or go to the store and get her favorite soda. This is just to help her build trust that she can have some control in an uncomfortable situation. Right now she might not really have that, and may be why she’s landed on avoidance

    Use it while physically together, but also take a picture so a screenshot can be shared with little edits over what she’s associated with her feelings.

    When I’m overstimulated by emotions I have an internal meltdown that can graduate to external if I’m being pushed. I absolutely can’t think of words in that state, and often I’m afraid to even express myself in those moments.








  • Thank you. I took him to court last summer, and my lawyer got him to agree to just leave me alone until I graduate uni and could leave. But this dude wouldn’t, every time I walked outside he did everything he could to make me go back in. He was actually stalking me at school too, I’d walk out of a building and see him leaning on my car. So I was checking it for damage and trackers daily. There’s actual damage to my house now, but it’s not like I can go out there and fix it…

    The cops have been less than helpful, saying “that’s on public property” or “well, we can’t really tell what his intentions are, have you talked to a therapist?”. Finally last month I got one to admit to me that they aren’t interested in charging him with anything, including violating the restraining order. So, I don’t really have a choice, there is no protection for me here


  • The last time I wasn’t polite to a man he threatened to ruin my life, drive me out of my home, kill my dog, etc. All I did was throw his stuff back into his yard, stuff he had thrown into my driveway. Yeah, that was my next door neighbor. And he won, I’m selling my house at a loss and fucking my credit just to get away from him

    Edit: a couple months before that he tried to break into my house because he wanted something and I wasn’t answering the door. And a few months before that he had literally pushed his way into my house following me in. Some people are nuts, and so need to be treated carefully. I was just completely at my limit with him, and should have called for backup before that confrontation that pissed him off