ExtimateCookie [none/use name]

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Cake day: January 8th, 2024

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  • It’s a common conservative trope to bring up people who will abuse any form of social aid. They focus on how some undeserving lazy people will “hack” the system of that aid, driving attention from the benefit of that aid even if some do actually abuse it. Being critical in the posts would not shame the people who do that, it might drive away people who actually need aid. Speaking from a personal experience, I only ask for help after I beat myself up enough and it’s not the time for me listen to a lecture. I’ve never asked for money online like this and finding this community actually surprises me and gives me hope. I once summoned d enough courage to ask a friend for help, not much money, just a loan to buy enough food. They ended up lecturing me about things I already know. What’s worse is that they live in Europe and I am in a “third world country” suffering from health issues that make it hard for me to work consistently. I was already so depressed but the lecturing made it much worse and confirmed all the blame I blame msyelf all the time. This made me not ask for anything anymore, and I saw that the world is so dark that even a few bucks to save your life wouldn’t be given by a friend. I am of course open to improve in any way but not when I am feeling so down and need to find food. I am much better now and can manage food and rent and necessities. But I still get a bad feeling from that lecture. It’s the feeling that if things go wrong for me I might just die because no one cares.