I’ve been trying to find a good Marxist instance, but Lemmygrad and Hexbear are widely hated. Why is that? Are there any good leftist instances?

    • @Garfield@lemm.ee
      4•6 months ago

      looking at the original thread through the modlog on their side they were actually talking about food security in china and not r*pe apologia. Even if they had been saying how great SA is, the transphobia you showed in that thread entirely unprompted wouldnt have been justified because they were doing something that was also bad

        • @Garfield@lemm.ee
          2•6 months ago

          i literally just wasnt looking at lemmy, i didnt see your three comments until now, i wasnt like evading you or anything. i’ll just like read what you said fully now

          edit: having actually read it the like whole stereotype of like a privileged white person changing their pronouns for attention and so they can feel oppressed is largely a transphobic trope that gives cover for putting down trans people. to some degree i agree that like queer white people can use their queerness as a weapon against racial minorities as a putdown (i’ve seen this happen myself personally) and solely refer to violence against trans people without mentioning that the majority of transphobic murders and sexual assaults that happen are against black trans people so even though all trans people are under threat, black queer people are at the meeting point of queerness and blackness where violence against them is considered the most acceptable by frothing conservatives - but this is like a discussion to be had between queer and POC people, not white cishet people.

          the majority of people who like use neopronouns mainly do it in queer exclusive spaces because like there’s a risk of having conservatives get really mad at them over it, that’s why its not really visible to cishet people outside of the internet because most cishets arent privy to the spaces where queer people do it, it’s not just a thing people do to seem special (for instance Leslie Feinberg, a very well known trans liberationist activist used neopronouns “I am a human being who would rather not be addressed as Ms. or Mr., ma’am or sir. I prefer to use gender-neutral pronouns like sie (pronounced like “see””) and hir (pronouncedlike “here”) to describe myself. I am a person who faces almost insurmountable difficulty when instructed to check off an “F” or an “M” box on identification papers.”).

          In regards to the “hexbear is like israel” thing, i disagree with quite a lot that they say but to compare them to a country currently doing a genocide is a bit out of hand. I disagree with their whole “Dont vote” shit but like i can understand where its coming from, in my own country (Britain) there’s a sense that like the labour party is stripping away the pro queer stance that they had under corbyn while platforming transphobes and cynically using queer rights to promote the actual Israel. The conservatives would be so much worse than the labour party and are currently basically teeing themselves up to be like american republicans were a few years ago but i get the urge to just burn it all down, when it comes to the vote i’ll be going to vote and cursing starmer’s name while i do it, but i’ll probably still be voting for him

          • @FaeDrifterEnglish
            1•6 months ago

            Thank you for your response, you’re very rational and compelling and I find myself agreeing with everything you’ve said. So I’m not going to address most of it, you’re right and that’s enough to be said.

            the majority of people who like use neopronouns mainly do it in queer exclusive spaces because like there’s a risk of having conservatives get really mad at them over it, that’s why its not really visible to cishet people outside of the internet because most cishets arent privy to the spaces where queer people do it, it’s not just a thing people do to seem special (for instance Leslie Feinberg, a very well known trans liberationist activist used neopronouns “I am a human being who would rather not be addressed as Ms. or Mr., ma’am or sir. I prefer to use gender-neutral pronouns like sie (pronounced like “see””) and hir (pronouncedlike “here”) to describe myself. I am a person who faces almost insurmountable difficulty when instructed to check off an “F” or an “M” box on identification papers.”).

            I think a gender neutral singular pronouns like sie/hir would make a lot of sense to add to our general lexicon. I’m tripped up on “Comrade” or “Fae”, if any dictionary word can become a neo-pronoun, we’ve completely lost the plot in terms of real life practicality. When I first saw dictionary works turned into pronouns I fully expected a “one joke” “attack helicopter” next. Conservative might hate pronouns but they LOVE pronoun jokes, and will pretend anything is their pronouns, as a mockery.

            If course, this could be queer people taking back their power from the joke? And really it all points to the endgame that gender is just a social construct anyway and it can be whenever we want. I think the reasonable conclusion is eventually the only pronouns left are ungendered, but if course for now we have to deal with gender binary being the dominant social norm.

        • @spiderplant@lemm.ee
          3•6 months ago

          Gonna give you my honest two cents.

          You come across as a cunt whenever you police who can use neo pronouns based on how they look or act.

          Pronouns are something people should be free to explore.

          Hopefully being able to look into the topic without prejudice will allow people to discover their own queerness and/or empathise with people that do use them.

          Neverind that that is bad faith to argue that hexbear enforces neo pronouns, trad pronouns or anonymous can be used.

          • @FaeDrifterEnglish
            1•6 months ago

            I was not policing anyone using neo-pronouns.

            When Hexbear first federated, the first thing I was from them was stuff like:

            UserName [They/Comrade][Fae/Faer]: If the US doesn’t pull out of NATO the entire Biden family should be rounded up and summarily executed.

            And I was like okay, you say the exact same things that neo-Nazis in the US say, that doesn’t look like a good faith use of pronouns, that looks like a mockery of leftists.

            You come across as a cunt whenever you police who can use neo pronouns based on how they look or act.

            It’s an anonymous message board, they don’t look like anything, but they act like Nazis. It was never about the pronouns on their own.

            I’ll definitely agree with you I was a cunt about it, and to anybody who was hurt, I apologize.

            Now I still don’t think that neo-pronouns compare to the real life trans struggle. Trans people are in so much more danger irl, if someone doesn’t accept neo-pronouns and you accuse them of transphobia, I think you are appropriating and exploiting the trans struggle.

            I think Hexbear weaponizes accusations of transphobia the same was Israel weaponizes accusations of anti-semitism. If someone accused them of acting like a fascist, they have their cultural oppression on hand to exploit for their own gain.

            So I’m short, use whatever pronouns you want, just don’t act like a Nazi.

            • @spiderplant@lemm.ee
              1•6 months ago

              But then you can have over here a super privileged white man, who decides he now goes by neo-pronouns, puts no work or risk in and retains every privilege in society of being a white man.

              IMO saying you don’t look queer enough or are too privileged so you can’t use neo-pronouns is policing it.

              It’s like saying to a disabled person that they don’t look disabled enough or are too privileged to use disabled parking spaces.

              This looks to me in absolutely no way comparable to what it’s like to be trans.

              You aren’t qualified to make this judgement and neither am I.

              I would say something like, I feel like neo-pronoun people have culturally appropriated the struggle of trans people. You can pick up some neo-pronouns and get all the leftist points, without actually putting yourself on the line the way trans people put themselves on the line.

              I’m near 100% sure neo-pronouns come from queer spaces or other cultures where queerness is respected. You are IMO using right wing talking points whenever you critique neo-pronouns usage.

              It’s an anonymous message board, they don’t look like anything, but they act like Nazis. It was never about the pronouns on their own.

              So why call out pronouns? Also calling them Nazis for respondimg negatively to you is not a good look when even you admit what you wrote is not okay.

              I think Hexbear weaponizes accusations of transphobia the same was Israel weaponizes accusations of anti-semitism. If someone accused them of acting like a fascist, they have their cultural oppression on hand to exploit for their own gain.

              Again you admit you were transphobic in your comments so in this case the accusation was correct so it’s not like Israel.

              Comparisons to fascism to try and back up your argument against an antifascist instance is quite funny to me and again does make its seem you are arguing in bad faith here to try and smear the instance.

              I appreciate that you have apologised a couple of times in the comments but you keep saying stuff after it that you need to apologise for again.

              If you actually want to learn from trans people, maybe try not to debate them when they tell you something and listen to what they are saying.

              • @FaeDrifterEnglish
                1•6 months ago

                Comparisons to fascism to try and back up your argument against an antifascist instance is quite funny to me and again does make its seem you are arguing in bad faith here to try and smear the instance.

                A anti-fascist instance would not geopolitically align itself with neo-Nazis.

                  • @FaeDrifterEnglish
                    1•6 months ago

                    It does, pro-Russia and US isolationism as neo-Nazi positions.

                • @spiderplant@lemm.ee
                  1•6 months ago

                  Again you’re coming across as a cunt.

                  This is a non argument.

                  Let me rephrase it for you: what if a person that is vehemently against trans people made fun of pronouns?

                  People should criticise those acting against trans people. People should not criticise those exploring queer ideas in good faith and respecting the people in that space.

                  • @FaeDrifterEnglish
                    1•6 months ago

                    So Hexbear is not directly but incidentally supporting the GOP.

                    So supporting the destruction of trans rights in America.

                    In that context, can you see how that would make Hexbear’s use of pronouns look like a mockery and not a good faith exploration of queerness?