even if its just one goal or dream that you achived and such, how did you do it and how did iy make you feel?
im honestly struggling to achive things i want becasue i tend to dream big so how did you all do it?
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I used to be a lazy slob. Until one day I realized I hated my job and would rather die than continue. So I set a goal, went back to school (parttime, because you need an income always). It was such a hectic time, I didn’t get to spent any time with my wife and kids, but after a year and a half I got a job at the college I was studying. Now they pay for my bachelor and I even get time to study during working hours. It feels like I have so much free time now that I started a duolingo course and an online programming course out of boredom. The lazy slob I used to be, would’ve definitely celebrated the free time with couch time, but I guess I’ve developed a taste for studying now. I barely recognize myself sometimes and it makes me both scared and proud.
I lowered my expectations.
Just pure dumb luck. Being in the right place at the right time. I guess if there’s any takeaway from that, it’s just to stay attentive and stay open. You never know when the thing that’s going to change your life is going to arrive.
Well, I just worked my ass off. Now, I can buy as much candy as I could ever want.
Unfortunately, I’ve lost the taste for it, and it’s no longer as appealing as it was when I was 5.
Dream achieved?
I guess you achieved your dream, that is pretty good.
I seem to have achieved the nightmare. Need a mulligan, NGL.
Hang in there! It will get better I promise
Thanks. I’m not going anywhere, too curious to see where this Black Mirror episode of a life goes next.
I got a super-cool first job because my mother happened to be jabbering about me to a guy who thought it’d be neat to have an intern. Note that this wasn’t some rich-folks club cotillion, she was a part time dental hygienist making small talk during a cleaning.
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“Luck is the most important factor in success; more than hard work, more than money.”
Sounds like you’re pretty lucky?
Oops - my first sentence go stripped on the post; I edited to add it back. Yes, luck is the most important quality.
I had 1 goal. 7y ago I tried to buy an express ticket to thoughts and prayers but the gun jammed. Good thing too, .22 HP probably would’ve only blown my face off. Made a deal with myself, get better within 7y or try again. I’m back in the gym, doing therapy, finished my degree, and getting to know myself better. Still between jobs but… Hey, can’t have everything. Trying to emigrate but that’s a bit beyond the horizon atm. That’s the next goal.
Dude, I’m glad you’re here.
Thanks! There’s still dark days but I’ve learnt healthy ways to deal.
By holding myself responsible, and by being kind. I don’t want to dox myself but having a reputation of someone who can be relied on and is trustworthy, and of also being nice to have around and to be with, means that when opportunities arise they’ll think of you.
Make smart decisions (especially marriage), take calculated risks, work hard, be nice, cross fingers.
I wouldn’t really say I’m who you’re asking, but I’ve looked hard at a lot of statistics on this. It’s mostly luck, with a big helping of what you were given either through birth or early life, which is just a form of luck if you think about it.
Anything beyond that is going to be a matter of your particular situation, and which things you’re willing and able to change about it. If there was a silver bullet everyone would already use it.
This is honestly why I keep leaning further and further left. I have worked my ass off, and I have achieved a lot. I put myself through school and got a master’s degree and have a decent career. I have an awesome partner and my kids are doing well.
I grew up very poor. My parents were religious nut jobs resulting in a perfect combination of abuse and neglect. My first marriage was also abusive.
I’m angry about what I’ve had to sacrifice and how hard I’ve had to work to overcome so many things that were completely out of my control. I’m also a white cis man in America. So, so many times people have said things to me about women, other races, LGBTQIA+, etc, as if it would be the default view, that there is no question that there is a ton of bigotry out in these systems. And then I think, what would the experience be of someone in one of these groups and otherwise a similar situation to mine? How much more would they have to sacrifice? How much harder would they have to work? Would they even ever be able to get as far as I have?
This makes me even more angry, and I think this shit needs to change.
Usually about two weeks goes by then the project ends up on the shelf with all my other half done projects. Goal successfully archived!
One of my favorite baseball players, Shohei Ohtani, has an insane goal listing. He breaks down his goals into seperate steps and individual actions he can take to achieve those elements.
Now he’s an absolute freak and one of the most accomplished humans on the planet but learning about how he thinks is interesting and I think we can all take something from this.
He definitely dreams big! And hasn’t accomplished everything on his goal list.
https://hirokiga.medium.com/the-shohei-ohtani-goal-matrix-df454b5b1482
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My dream has always been a family. Raising children is hard as hell and often thankless, but I have 3 adult children and 3 grandkids now. I feel like it’s my greatest achievement.
It took years of effort and work, but it was worth every second.
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