Starting to feel crushed by the weight of the world, riddled with guilt and disappointment in myself over my choices. Nothing I can do about the past though.
What are some of the ways you guys get yourselves out of a bad headspace?
I take stock.
What are my personal positive achievements?
Where am I right now, is it a good place?
It doesn’t have to be my final destination, but is it good?
If I strip away all the fringe and lingering bullshit, am I safe and happy in this specific point in time?
Like right now: I am on the couch drinking coffee on a Saturday morning. I have three dogs with me. I am safe and I am loved.
What happens tomorrow is future zombie_kong’s problem. Not todays.
Edit: you got this. It’s nothing. A mere blip in this adventure we call living.
Another thing that I like is considering not what I can do to “change my life in a year” but “what can I do tomorrow to improve my life even a little bit right now?”
Instead of getting caught up on larger things that might take years to achieve, if I consider something I can change right now that will make tomorrow a better day, those changes will add up much more quickly and noticeably.
Even if I can’t think of something, that’s fine. I can accept that, and just move on to the next day. The important thing is to ask myself this every day, so that I can give myself the option of making that change and having that reflection.
I like that.
Life can be overwhelming. Small adjustments can go a long way.
What I typically do is listen to some music. I have a collection of soundtracks from some of my favorite video games. I pick a couple of pieces from the whole collection and let the music lead me through my memories. It’s not too far off from the feeling of going through an old photo album. I imagine one could get a similar effect by returning to any number of things that they used to enjoy.
Listening to music helps me too. Recently I noticed that “sad” music seems to work especially well - something slow, not too intrusive, like Wolfsheim, Deine Lakaien, Anne Clark, … While I listen it allows me to actually experience my emotions, and when I eventually turn off this music it also helps me to “snap out of it” and focus on the next steps in my life (which may just be cleaning the dishes or going for a run).
I get myself a nice little treat and take a break. I treat myself like someone else who I’d try to cheer up
But honestly - sounds like you need a lot more than that if you are feeling all tangled up. It’s helpful to unwind it all. With friends, with a therapist, even just talking to a stranger on the bus (or the internet)
Sometimes, I’ll treat myself to some ice cream. Just thought you should know.
I don’t want to trama dump on you but you’re right. What’s wrong with me doesn’t have a simple solution and it only ever ends one way.
Bubblebath. Whatever the problem, bubblebath.
Although if you’re in the US I think a lot of you have weirdly small baths over there so might not be quite as great an option. ymmv.
Sorry to read you are feeling this way.
We are all different; we don’t all respond the same way to the same things but I will share what works for me.
I try to channel that energy into something positive if I can - exercise that little bit harder, put more time and passion into my hobbies.
If that isn’t working I try to dissipate it; listening to heavy metal is my go to. The “heavier” it is the more therapeutic it becomes. Story-driven video games (and the odd first-person shooter or open world mess) can help too.
I have a young family and a family pet; I find that making time to play with them and doing activity with them helps, but even so I sometimes need time to myself to clear my head.
Oddly enough being at work helps too. By the time I’ve fixed someone else’s problems I realise that maybe mine can be fixed too.
I’ve never found that having a treat (food, drink, whatever) worked for me; I end up feeling guilty of the excess and empty afterwards - but I appreciate this works for some.
When all of the above fails - I phone a friend.
All of this is about making space to strip away the emotional burdens and perform a fair analysis of the situation. I’m very solution / results driven so I look for ways of moving forwards.
Take care out there.
Tune out the things you don’t have control over, lets yourself recover, enjoy some of your hobbies, and ehen you’re ready, ease back in.
Usually I can logic my way out of feeling bad, but I just feel so crushed rn over something objectively stupid. Like i feel a literal weight on my chest.
I walk. Short or long walks. Whatever I have time for. Even if I don’t really feel like walking. I find I almost never regret the decision to go. And I almost always return in a better mental state.
“You don’t have to do today again.”
I listen through the entire System of a Down discography from the beginning to the end
This is the way
Try to always have something coming up to look forward to. Whether it’s a hang out with friends, a concert, a trip to a park, whatever. Keep a calendar and stick with it even on the days when you’re not really feeling up to it. Bonus points if you’re trying something you’ve never done before. New experiences are really good at getting you out of your head and being more mindful.
A walk to through the woods and spending time with friends.
I have a plan for what I consider to be my happy place: retirement. Whenever I feel down I look at my plan and consider what small step I could take to get even closer. It helps me step back from the immediate feelings and focus on the longer term goal. No one is going to help me reach my goals. Only I can do that. Accepting this and seeing progress is so satisfyingly empowering.
I make a routine to make myself forget about the world for a bit. For me that’s getting a soda and watching a movie/TV show for a couple of hours or playing video games.
Take a walk in the forest and then go to a sauna.
Loads of weed and a Trance Party
Anything beyond that (like actual therapy to deal with the traumas of existing) is honestly too much for me to take on right now, so it’s little breaks of calm in the chaos that somehow keep me going. For now.
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