A self-styled dating coach and influencer from South Jersey blamed his pursuit of social media fame for the role he played in the Jan. 6 attack on the U.S. Capitol as he was sentenced to four years in federal prison Friday.

Patrick Stedman, 35, of Haddonfield, apologized for his actions that day, his livestream videos of the assault ā€” in which he referred to members of Congress as ā€œfā€” ratsā€ and accused them of committing treason ā€” as efforts to ā€œlook brave on Twitter.ā€

ā€œUnfortunately, social media tends to reward obnoxious behavior,ā€ he wrote in a letter to the judge. ā€œI was a fool, and like all fools I have suffered the consequences of my myopia.ā€

But as she weighed Stedmanā€™s fate, U.S. District Judge Beryl A. Howell expressed even greater concern that his social media following has only grown in the years since he was charged in connection with the riot.

Stedman, a University of Pennsylvania graduate who bills himself online as a ā€œsex and relationship strategistā€ and expert in ā€œfemale psychology,ā€ had roughly 26,000 followers when he joined the mob of angry supporters of former President Donald Trump two years ago.

His follower count on X, the platform formerly known as Twitter, has nearly doubled since then and heā€™s raised more than $100,000 through an online crowdfunding campaign to pay for his legal defense.

ā€œBasically, theyā€™re making money from their attack on the Capitol,ā€ Howell said, referencing the fundraising efforts by Stedman and others. ā€œItā€™s unseemly.ā€

Stedmanā€™s sentence came three months after a federal jury found him guilty on one felony count of obstructing an official proceeding of Congress as well as related misdemeanors. He is among 23 New Jersey residents convicted of playing a role in the riot, which injured scores of officers, caused millions in damage and threatened the peaceful transfer of presidential power.

Prosecutors alleged Stedman spent more than 45 minutes inside the Capitol building ā€” shouting at police, snapping selfies and documenting much of it for the thousands who followed his social media accounts.

In the days before, Stedman had urged them to join him in Washington on Jan. 6.

ā€œWill eventually be a national holiday akin to the 4th of July,ā€ he wrote in a post on Twitter. ā€œYou will want to tell your grandchildren you were there.ā€

Later, he tweeted: ā€œThis is the Second American Revolution.ā€

His efforts to drum up interest drew at least 11 of Stedmanā€™s online followers to Washington that day, Assistant U.S. Attorney Brian Morgan said. Two of them joined Stedman ā€” wearing a gaudy Christmas sweater emblazoned with Trumpā€™s face and the slogan ā€œMake X-mas Great Againā€ ā€” in the mob that assaulted the Capitol building.

ā€œStorming the Capitol! ā€¦ Itā€™s our fā€” house!ā€ he shouted in one video as they approached from the West Lawn. He later claimed in a text that he was among the ā€œfirst waveā€ of rioters who ā€œbroke down the doors.ā€

Stedman tweeted videos of himself sitting in then-House Speaker Nancy Pelosiā€™s office, as outside rioters brawled with police, tear gas wafted through the marbled hallways and terrified members of Congress were evacuated from the House floor.

He later joined a mob that attempted to break down the door to the House chamber ā€” an act of aggression that led Capitol police to shoot one member of the mob, Ashli Babbitt.

When Stedman learned of Babbittā€™s death, he recorded video of himself confronting police, shouting: ā€œYouā€™re going to shoot your own people, you ā€¦ fā€” scum! You killed one of us. Youā€™re done.ā€

And once police finally forced him out of the building, he paused on the Capitol steps to film himself once again. He boasted that heā€™d forced the ā€œrats [to] scurry under the tunnelsā€ in fear.

ā€œStedman ā€¦ was part of a massive riot that almost succeeded in preventing the certification vote from being carried out, frustrating the peaceful transition of presidential power and throwing the United States into a Constitutional crisis,ā€ Morgan wrote in court filings in advance of sentencing.

For his part, Stedman said nothing as prosecutors read out his litany of offenses, sitting stone-faced next to his attorney, Rocco C. Cipparone Jr., and opting not to address the judge in court but only in the letter heā€™d submitted in advance.

At trial, heā€™d maintained he was merely exercising his right to peacefully protest and said when he called on Twitter for ā€œrevolution,ā€ he meant a political uprising akin to the civil rights movement of the 1960s.

Howell, on Friday, called that comparison ā€œoffensiveā€ and questioned Stedmanā€™s continued social media popularity.

He amassed his moderately sizable online following by casting himself as a pickup artist and trafficking in a steady mix of misogyny, COVID denialism and QAnon conspiracy theories.

His daily ā€œsex and female psychologyā€ newsletter promises to answer once and for all what women ā€œreally want from menā€ and offers relationship coaching classes that promised to unlock the mysteries of ā€œwell-executed online dating exchangesā€ at $500 a session ā€” a business thatā€™s proven surprisingly lucrative, bringing in more than $17,000 a month, according to Cipparone.

And Stedmanā€™s post-Jan. 6 online fundraising pitch on the Christian crowdfunding site GiveSendGo ā€” in which he claimed his prosecution was ā€œan attack on Bidenā€™s political opponents,ā€ blamed bitter former classmates for turning him in, and bemoaned the fact that he and his father were kicked out of their wine club after his arrest ā€” has drawn more than $100,000 in donations, the lawyer said.

Howell appeared baffled by that clout as she announced his sentence Friday. In addition to the prison term, she ordered Stedman to pay $22,000 in fines and restitution and serve three yearsā€™ probation upon his release from prison.

ā€œIt is one of the ironies of these Jan. 6 cases that people get more popular,ā€ she said. ā€œI can only hope that you use that platform not to sow more disinformation and division in this country. I can only urge you to puncture that disinformation.ā€

Within an hour of that remark, Stedman was back on X, soliciting more donations.

  • Given what he did and also video taped himself, so there is really no doubt about it, i find 4 years and 22,000 dollars fine a very gentle sentencing.

    He incited people to join for jan 6 claiming it to be a new american revolution and was among the people trying to storm the chamber. Also later he was even making money off of him being charged and he leveraged his participation for more social media attention.

    Remorse looks very different.