I want to be respectful but if they say they don’t care what pronouns I use for them, that feels like it puts the decision on me to choose what to call them and I guess I would probably default to “they” because choosing a gender for them feels weird… am I wrong?
This pronoun obsession is a distraction from real problems.
You’re right, we can’t, as humans, care about or focus on more than one thing. We should ignore everything that’s not actively killing people and focus exclusively on the things that are.
Go on, focus your attention on something that matters. I dare you.
Projection? They asked a simple question about something they were unfamiliar with, I’d hardly call that obsessing.
This obsession with trying to be a better friend/neighbor/coworker is what’s really wrong with the world today!
What about asking one question led you to conclude that they have an obsession?
You might not be fit to interact with society if you think minor etiquette questions are somehow stopping people from doing work to solve other problems.