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Cake day: March 24th, 2022

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  • Recently some idiot from the furthest right party in my country loudly complained that a newly built school in the city “discriminates against drivers”. You see the lot they built on wasn’t ideal, and they ended up having to sacrifice parking spaces. So there’s not enough parking for everyone. If you want to work there, you may have to take the bus or park elsewhere.

    To this right-wing idiot, this was a huge scandal unlike any other! It’s a war on the people! It’s irrational hatred of drivers! The left has gone too far!

    It was ridiculous.

    Just fucking fund better public transportation jesus fuck.














  • It’s natural that you feel like you missed out. You did. You should mourn that as much as you need to. Being robbed of life experiences due to mental health issues is heartbreaking. Believe me, I know. That shit isn’t easy. It’s okay to be sad about that.

    The thought of asking someone out terrifies me. I am completely clueless in dating matters and overcoming this seems like an impossible roadblock.

    Well, yeah, you have social anxiety! Asking someone out is scary for pretty much everyone, put social anxiety on top of that and… I mean if I had even TRIED to ask someone out when I had social anxiety I’m pretty sure I would have had insta-died. I get that you want to date and that’s a fine goal to have, but you need to aim a little lower to start with. Something that makes you a bit nervous but not so much that it totally freaks you out. You do that over and over until eventually it doesn’t make you nervous at all, and you tackle the next thing. Then the next, until finally asking someone out suddenly doesn’t seem like the insurmountable obstacle it once was.

    I don’t want to become some weird incel creep

    What makes incels creepy isn’t the fact that they haven’t had sex or that they’re shut-ins. It’s the fact that they’re entitled, misogynistic nazi rapists. You’re fine. There’s nothing wrong with being shy, or anxious, or a virgin, and anyone who disagrees with that isn’t worth the time anyway. God I sound like an after-school special… But it’s true!

    Just try to be patient with yourself, comrade. Recovery takes some time and effort. Just be proud that you’ve started. Not everyone gets to that point, you know? Some go their entire lives without seeking help or even admitting to themselves that something is wrong. 25 is young. You’re 25 and you already know what abuse is like, what social anxiety is like, and what seeking helping and slowly starting to recover is like. As much as it sucks to have to learn those things, that’s the sort of experiences that breed wisdom. I’ve never become wiser after going out to a club lmao. Just saying.



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    2 years ago

    Like men’s lib, but Marxist? I think that would be neat. It’s definitely necessary. The way men are socialized + all the incel/fascist pipelines is creating so much misery. And literally killing people. We should try to combat that as much as we can.

    As a woman I really wish we would put more focus on the patriarchy. I think many communists, particularly male communists, tend to underestimate the importance of it. Maybe because whenever the patriarchy is discussed, it is usually to point out the misogyny. I wish empathy for women could be enough, but if men are taught from birth that we are their servants and accessories then their empathy has already been dampened. So it’s not enough to talk about women’s issues. We also need to talk about men’s issues in a way that keeps all this in mind.

    Men’s rights movements tend to devolve into incel hellholes, but so long as a feminist lens and Marxist perspective is being utilized then there’s at least a chance that it won’t.

    I hope there can be a movement of men supporting men in a non-toxic way. I really think you could accomplish so much if you made a movement based on radical compassion for each other. Men supporting men, in the ways that men need to be supported. Open up to each other, display your vulnerabilities, be soft. That would be brave.