Yes but she doesn’t go to church often, she convinced me to come with once and it took me from being an atheist who isn’t opposed to Christianity to being fully convinced that it’s just a worldwide cult
Lol, what kind of church did you go to? Was it just the singing and slideshow kind, or were they doing something more hardcore?
None of that it was just one of the Easter sermons and they were telling a story about jesus, the way they said he always referred to himself as god just felt like it was some sort of heavens gate situation
Yeah, I’ve been out of the church long enough I can hear it now. They all start as a weird cult, and in this case a weird death cult that chose a torture device as their symbol, and were the first recruiting religion to actively shit on everyone else’s religion (AFAIK).
You didn’t actually specify the denomination, but Catholic cannibalism and the various denominations that do rights in dead languages are also fun. Coptics even do it facing the wall away from you. Evangelicals try and make Christianity slick and modern, at least, although it’s a matter of taste if that’s better or worse.
Sacrificing virgins
Catholic masses are extremely cult-like. There’s a choreographed stand/sit/kneel dance, “everybody please give us money” phase, plus a part where everyone lines up to eat their unappetizing snack.
And they speed kids through the initiation process so that they are “committed” before high school, when they might start thinking for themselves.
I don’t understand how anyone can look at that religion and not immediately see that it’s mostly a power grab dressed up as a salvation from inherited sins that were made up in the first place. And then later, it’s, “Hey yeah, you’ll get into heaven, just tell us all the dirt on you!”
As someone with heavy exposure to the evangelical protestant side of things, I have to respect the up-frontness, at least. They have canon law, which can’t be re-interpreted on the whim of whatever local priest to suit politics, the churches don’t pretend to be rec centers (or even malls in the 'states), and the priests dress like priests instead of like politicians or car salesmen.
The vagaries of Protestantism allow for a lot of weasel wording and charismatic personalities taking advantage of people - especially really poor people. The Catholic Church hierarchy has 1500 years of well-documented corruption, but I don’t think they have people today running ads promising that every donation towards Pastor McSlimy’s private jet will produce a large financial return through magical means, with staged testimonies suggesting people should forgo essential medical care to donate.
The “grass is always greener on the other side”, though.
Nope, thank God.
This made me lol
lol classic.
I’m vegan (24 years) and my wife is not. That doesn’t bother me, but I couldn’t handle it if she was religious.
I find it so cool that you’ve been vegan for 24 years, as a younger vegan (7 years) I thank you for suffering through groceries with one brand of soy milk and maybe some tofu (if you’re lucky) so that we can live in this world were I have access to vegan fudgesicles at the local grocery store.
I’m curious though, because veganism has definitely been a point of contention in my past few relationships; how do you and your wife manage meals? Do you do separate meals, or is it more of a “she’s vegan at home” type situation?
For sure being vegan has gotten a lot easier since I started. At home, I’m very lucky that she does most of the cooking. Sometimes she eats what she makes for me, other times she makes herself something separate. I wash the dishes to my own standards, so I don’t worry about “contamination” except for a few things: cutting board, frying pan.
Being (or being with) a vegan can be super inconvenient at times. After all these years (married for 21), we are super well-adjusted to it.
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Sounds pretty inconsiderate of the meat eater to force the rest to handle corpses instead of just eat their meal
Actually, the meat eater did all the cooking and was very considerate with everyone’s wishes :-)
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My husband and I were both still practicing Catholics when we met, even went to church together. Then he stopped going but I still did.
We moved to a different state and both started working from home. I stopped going to church because it was a small rural Midwest town and I stuck out too much (am brown).
Working from home meant a lot of computer time and YouTube rabbit holes. Between Sam Harris and Dan Barker, I found myself no longer believing.
My husband also ended up an atheist on his own, though we never discussed any of it with each other. I don’t even think he watched any of the same videos. Just one day I guess we talked about it and discovered we were both no longer Catholic.
Congrats to you both!
You guys have partners?
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My wife is religious. I’m sure what to say about it. It’s a non issue in our lives. She thinks what she wants. I think what I want. Kids were a little tricky, but we worked through it. They got introduced to the idea of religion when they were younger and I made no bones about not believing and we agreed they could decide for themselves. AFAIK they are both atheist but who knows when they experience significant loss - a lot of people turn to religion then. The older kids from her first marriage are all believers I think but also pretty casual I think. I think my oldest married an atheist, but the truth is I just don’t have reason to talk about religion or lack thereof with anyone.
ETA: we were married by a pagan. I also married my daughter dressed as Darth Vader after dueling her husband for her hand. So it’s just not a big thing.
No, but I wouldn’t rule someone out because of it as long as they were respectful
No, that is a deal breaker for me.
I’d consider it, but if they’re serious about it, I’m sure they wouldn’t love the way I look at them when they explain how well their spell/saint’s toe is working.
My wife’s Catholic, but apparently that means something different in the Philippines. More vague than dogmatic, I guess? In any case, her religion is nothing like the religion I know from America.
For example, she doesn’t know the first thing about the Bible, not even the standard Sunday school stuff. Nothing. Yes, I’m sure I’ll get comments that Christians don’t read the Bible, but her ignorance is astonishing. A comedian told a Bible joke and she clearly didn’t get it. "You know! It’s the story of ‘I forget’. Blank stare.
She doesn’t let it rule her life in any way. No church, rituals or confession either. We got married in a church, but that wasn’t important to her in the slightest. I wanted to marry there because it’s a quaint little place from the 1920s that was moved to my favorite outfitters (camping, kayaking, cabins, hiking, etc.) land.
She’s definitely prone to magical thinking, but not the “Jesus will make it all good.” sort. More like, “Your car’s AC is clearly failing.” “It’s OK. It was cold a few minutes ago.” Call it positivity in the extreme.
She has a rosary on the rear view window. Often grabs it and does the stations of the cross when nervous. (Which is kinda hilarious, but I don’t laugh.) Found a fairly nice crucifix in the trash and gave it to her. She was thrilled and hung it by her side of the bed. Whatever.
Now that I think on it, I should get her a really nice rosary from Christmas.
Oh, a lot of Filipinos can be quite cultural in their Catholicism.
As far as my own experience goes, catechism in Philippine public schools is more of a guy from the nearby church gives a series of weekly lectures that students don’t really pay attention to in order to have their first communion. And then after confirmation is treated more of a rite of passage than anything. Even my peers from Catholic schools aren’t that much better either, but they do have allotted time for religious teaching (or indoctrination). As far as people I know are concerned, they don’t take it seriously either.
There is no such thing as a Sunday school here, at least nothing that I know of.
There might be some people really serious about their Catholicism, but they’re few and far between. For a lot of people, going to church is for the Christmas eve mass (on night of the 24th of December), and maybe the Easter day mass, and sometimes even for their birthday (which is basically: go to church and pray for a bit, light a candle, etc.) However, going to church every Sunday is not something a lot of people do. And even when they do, not a lot pay attention to the homily and most just go through the ceremony and motions.
However, we can be pretty wild with our devotions: the Black Nazarene being the most well-known. Thousands of people flock to its yearly procession. And then there’s the infamous vows of being crucified during the yearly Lenten reenactment of Christ’s crucifixion in certain town and localities.
And then there’s our love of religious paraphenalia. Lots of Filipino homes have an altar with figures of their preferred saint alongside the icon or statue of the virgin Mary, Sacred Heart of Jesus and/or Jesus on the cross. This altar also has a candle (unlit, for safety, but sometimes lit for a few hours on certain days). This is also where some novena booklets, rosaries, and other blessed (as in sanctified by a priest in a special prayer at the end of novena masses) religious paraphernalia are placed.
Despite this outward show of religion, we barely know anything of it. Whatever little we may know of our religion mostly comes to us via whatever our parents teach us, if at all, or that scant cathecism given to us before our first communion. It’s no wonder then, that most of us don’t have any idea what our religion requires us to believe, or whatever the bible says. The bible might sometimes be part of the family altar, but often, it’s just there to gather dust.
Just a disclaimer though, while I count myself among the people I described, I later on became agnostic. However, only my partner (who is more of a Reddit atheist, btw) knows that.
Not surprised the Filipino catholic experience is similar to the latino catholic experience in my neck of the woods. Grew up catholic in a catholic school, and yeah, what you describe tracks. Down to the altar and general ignorance about the nitty gritty.
Also, the cath school thing, around here kids didn’t take the religion class too seriously either. From my class, of about 60-70 kids, only two enrolled into a numerary programme, and besides them, I know a handful are devout church-goers.
I also ended up agnostic, and luckily it only ever turned out to be a problem in two relationships.
WOW! I’ll have my wife give your comment a read. Sounds about exactly as I had imagined her religious background.
And again, for those not in the US, religion is a very different animal halfway around the planet.
Philippines- and rosary-loving atheist here. She’s a keeper.
I am religious and my partner is confidently atheistic. Our moral and ethical precepts are well-matched enough to get along with, even though they stem from different sources.
No, I don’t think that would work for me.
My wife is atheist, but I’m pastafari.
There’s a noodlely appendage joke somewhere in there…
Does she at least understand the correlation between global warming & the recidivism of piracy?
I just can’t fathom sitting around a Sunday evening dinner table & NOT talking about how we must become pirates to ascend.
There’s a noodlely appendage joke somewhere in there
Amenal denteRamen.
Back when we met she looked me up on Facebook, where I had listed my faith. She thought it would be a deal-breaker for a minute or two until she read up on pastafarianism.
She has come to accept my faith and has even read the good book cover to cover.
I’m guessing the free spaghetti helped
That’s what got me to join.
Haven’t you shown her the chart with the pirates? Can’t argue with science.
My wife was a Christian when we started dating, but her opinions on LGBTQ+ issues made her start questioning her faith which led her to leave the faith altogether by the time we were married.
Yup. It’s never been an issue
Wild people rule out others based on religion. I don’t give af as long as they’re good people
What’s wrong with wanting to share the same values, and to live in the same reality as your partner?
It’s easy enough to find a religious person who’s nice, but a shared reality is basically impossible if you really believe in science.
I guarantee you that there are things you think are for real that aren’t. So to disregard shared values for sake of a specific one of these things is…interesting. May your ex’s continue with their good fortune.
It can be a big issue if they lean a little harder into religion and start thinking they need to save your soul.
That’s why I say good people. Good people respect others religions and don’t try to force feed them theirs
