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Don_Dickle@lemmy.world to Explain Like I'm Five@lemmy.worldEnglish · 9 months ago

My younger brother keeps saying he is an Alpha male and bad mouths who he thinks are Beta. Can some one please explain to me what the hell is going on?

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My younger brother keeps saying he is an Alpha male and bad mouths who he thinks are Beta. Can some one please explain to me what the hell is going on?

Don_Dickle@lemmy.world to Explain Like I'm Five@lemmy.worldEnglish · 9 months ago
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  • I'll be on ShareMySims@lemmy.dbzer0.com@sh.itjust.works
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    Your brother is on a (specifically designed and heavily funded) pipeline to being a total piece of shit (not just with misogyny, but racism, and probably queerphobia and ableism too), do what you can to get him off it. A quick search brings up what looks to be some good info to start you off:

    Manosphere

    Misogynistic influencers are trending right now. Defusing their message is a complex task

    De-radicalising incels out of the ‘manosphere’ through Reddit

    Making a Radical Misogynist: How Online Social Engagement with the Manosphere Influences Traits of Radicalization

    Swallowing and spitting out the red pill: young men, vulnerability, and radicalization pathways in the manosphere

    Exiting the Manosphere

    There are also many youtube videos on the subject, though I haven’t watched any recently, so I won’t link, but look up something along the lines of “manosphere right wing pipeline” and you should see some results.

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      The Alt-Right Playbook videos are an also must watch, starting here:

      https://youtu.be/P55t6eryY3g

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      Fucking hell, I had to scroll all the way down here to find an answer that isn’t complete garbage.

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        Good news, they’re top comment, now!

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    “Alpha male” basically translates to toxic masculinity, and “beta male” basically translates to anyone who respects other people in any way. It’s the callsign of pieces of shit like Andrew Tate, who is a human trafficker and serial sexual abuser currently in prison awaiting trial in… I think it was Croatia?

    He doesn’t know what it means to be cool, so he’s hoping that just declaring that he’s cool will be good enough to make him popular.

    The problem is that the kids who try this strategy almost universally cannot pick up on social cues, otherwise they would understand that it will always lead to the opposite result. People who seriously say out loud that they’re alpha males are pretty much exclusively losers or scumbags.

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      I think it was Croatia?

      Romania

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      Romania?

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    Ask him if being an alpha male is a furry thing

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      Also if he likes werewolf romance novels

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      In this case, this should be the only acceptable explanation.

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      Skip a step and just buy him some furry romance novel like “alpha of my heart” or whatever (I will not be googling for options, no shame but I don’t need that in my history)

      Give it to him and tell him you support him and he’s really brave to be himself in front of you and others.

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    • Tiefling IRL@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      Alpha males are like alpha versions of software

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      neutron male 😎

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    Tell him calling himself an alpha is just what a beta would do. Real alphas don’t say shit about themselves, they have people who do that for them. Watch him implode.

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      “Any man who must say ‘I am king’ is no true king at all.”

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      Im a Sugma male.

      • ShepherdPie
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        Not a Ligma male?

        • Pandantic [they/them]
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          Or a Smegma male?

      • HollowNaught@lemmy.world
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        Ligma balls

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      That would probably just stop him from sharing. He would still keep consuming the harmful content

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    He’s watching toxic YouTubers like Joe Rogan and Andrew Tate.

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    If you want advice on how to handle this: ask questions. Ask them calmly and without any judgment. Be genuinely curious.

    “What makes him a ‘beta male?’”

    “What characteristics do you admire most in ‘alpha males?’”

    “What characteristics do you think you have?”

    “Where’d you learn about all this?”

    Don’t ask them in rapid fire, pepper a question in here and there over time.

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      Alternatively refer to him only as “Cuck” until he stops acting like a fuckwit.

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        No cuck shaming please.

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          What are they gonna do about it? Get someone to defend their kinks better than they can while they jerk off in the corner?

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            Dunno, but your fixation on defending the use of a kink as an insult soulds pretty assholeish. You do you.

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              Ok, in fairness the second comment was a dumb joke. But I fight stupid bigots with stupid bigotry. Its more entertaining for me than trying logic and reason because as we have seen time and time again from Trumpists it plain doesnt fucking work. Fuck them, if I have to be mad listening to their dribble, Im gonna make them madder.

              Someone constantly spouting off about being an Alpha will hate a dismissive “shut up cuck” and being walked off on so much more than actually respecting their stance by arguing it with logic.

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                I also hate bigots, it’s just that engaging in hate against non-bigots to go against bigots is unnecessary when there’s tons of other ways to go against bigots.

                I never said “don’t insult the bigot pro alpha asshole”. Please do, but please don’t kink shame <3

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          Cucks are kinda into that though…

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    He wants girls to think he is cool but has received bad advice

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    Your brother is being recruited by the fascists. That is what is going on.

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    Andrew Tate and his cum dungeon brother are a big reason for this.

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    Beat his ass to establish dominance.

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      True solution, beat him into submission so that now he’s the beta male and all of a sudden he’s denying the concept

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          It’s not important whether he believes in that nonsense, it’s important that he knows he’s the lesser brother.

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      Seduce his mom!

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    Anyone who has to vocalize that they’re an alpha, isn’t. Your brother is a loser.

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      If you have to say you’re in charge, you’re not

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    deleted by creator

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      Nitpicking, but not every rule of nature. I still need to pee :(

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          He’s just an alpha marking his territory.

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    Ask him,whether this alpha beta talk is a furry thing.

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    People are generally stupid, even more so when they’re young. Younger people are getting brainwashed by low-IQ online influencers into believing this Alpha/Beta shit.

    It’s that simple.

    If you want to help him, try to break his addiction to those influencers.

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      Did you seriously just do the same exact thing but with high vs low-iq? Was this irony intentional?

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        No. But I can see how someone obsessed with being obtuse as a hobby could benefit from implying that I was doing so.

        Likes or death, amirite?

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          It’s extra funny cause iq is just as much bullshit as alpha.

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            every metric for intelligence is bullshit to some degree or another. Yet, some people are actually dumber than others. IQ is a concise term that gets the point across, for the sake of communication, what more do you want?

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              IQ is a useful test when applied correctly. Using it on individual is rarely productive, but comparing population groups with similar cultural values is very useful. Two rural towns with a 10 point difference? Maybe the chemical plant down the road is doing something. Boomers being a few points lower then Millennials? Leaded gas.

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