Please note that my comments were mostly reactions to @Brattea@lemmy.ml, not to the woman in the blog post.
ah thanks.
They (Brattea, not the blogger) were complaining about downvotes, and that stuff is so non-constructive and childish I had to react. I know now, I fell for it again. I responded to online bait.
Yes. and i reacted to you to show that @Brattea@lemmy.ml, is not alone, to show solidarity. Non-constructive answers (for instance trolling, shitposting, making puns of things, saying people like things.) are also very common comments and my impression is that you don’t care about regular non-constructive comments but only about Brattea’s complaint of the lack of solidarity.
Oh for Jack’s sake! That is absolutely not what anybody you (and Brattea) are arguing with were actually writing! Fallacies are fun I guess. :(
well true, but it is a very common reaction.
As said before, in many places in the world this is all woven into far more complex problems, whereof the solution is probably also far more complex.
that is also true.
They are marginalising folk and are no actual solution to anything.
the actual solution would be to read many books how patriarchy works in modern societies. which i do regularly - altough i am not experiencing sexual harassment/sexism and read about patriarchy because i want to show solidarity and avoid common pitfalls in dealing with sexual harassment and sexism.
if we had a constructive and thoughtful conversation in FOSS about sexism and structrucal patriarchy, i woulnd’t complain, but we don’t have that.
let’s assume this article would get viral with many upvotes and many people showing solidarity and such things. male people in india would also see that and because of the attention this topic gets it would create a big discussion in the foss scene in india (it is simplified, stuff usually doesn’t work that simple, but still it forces people to think about it).
so that means: the high number of downvotes decrease the likelyhood the patriarchy in india crumbles. And yes it wouldnt’ be destroyed either way, because it is a slow process to destroy patriarchy - but still the discussion is important.
when you actually want to destroy patriarchy, showing solidarity when people complain about patriarchy is the most basic thing you can do to help.
He doesn’t want to show solidarity with women though. It’s about his feelings. He is entitled to be seen as virtuous without doing anything! It’s the reason he responded to me in the way that he did. Please do not over look the condescending nature of his comments and reply guying behavior. I tried gently to explain it but all I got were nit picks.
Another issue with men in FOSS is tone policing. Look at how entitled he felt to tell me how I had to respond how this woman had to title it for her to be credible.
They (Brattea, not the blogger) were complaining about downvotes, and that stuff is so non-constructive and childish I had to react.
And here it is again. I was thoughtful and constructive until I was talked to like someone who didn’t know anything. I NEVER COMPLAINED ABOUT THE DOWNVOTES. I complained about the men who were so sensitive they cannot take any notion that they might be responsible. They downvote her post (edit) not (edit) because they dislike it, it’s about overpowering her perspective. It’s about speaking over her. It’s about isolating the issue to India so they cannot be held accountable
Notice how when a woman makes a point “complaining” is the way it’s described. No one stopped to see I was making a point.
Any man who understands this knows not to downvote. They know not to put down women speaking up. They know how to read and listen and try not to repeat the behavior that perpetuates the abuse in her life. They read that and think “have i done any of this”, “have I acted in a way which enables anything she has described?”. And then they become better men overtime.
And the other thing here is watch I’m gonna call it out before it happens I will be framed as rude or argumentative because I dared to speak the truth about how women are treated by shitty men.
ah thanks.
Yes. and i reacted to you to show that @Brattea@lemmy.ml, is not alone, to show solidarity. Non-constructive answers (for instance trolling, shitposting, making puns of things, saying people like things.) are also very common comments and my impression is that you don’t care about regular non-constructive comments but only about Brattea’s complaint of the lack of solidarity.
well true, but it is a very common reaction.
that is also true.
the actual solution would be to read many books how patriarchy works in modern societies. which i do regularly - altough i am not experiencing sexual harassment/sexism and read about patriarchy because i want to show solidarity and avoid common pitfalls in dealing with sexual harassment and sexism.
if we had a constructive and thoughtful conversation in FOSS about sexism and structrucal patriarchy, i woulnd’t complain, but we don’t have that.
also notice:
let’s assume this article would get viral with many upvotes and many people showing solidarity and such things. male people in india would also see that and because of the attention this topic gets it would create a big discussion in the foss scene in india (it is simplified, stuff usually doesn’t work that simple, but still it forces people to think about it).
so that means: the high number of downvotes decrease the likelyhood the patriarchy in india crumbles. And yes it wouldnt’ be destroyed either way, because it is a slow process to destroy patriarchy - but still the discussion is important.
when you actually want to destroy patriarchy, showing solidarity when people complain about patriarchy is the most basic thing you can do to help.
thanks. :)
He doesn’t want to show solidarity with women though. It’s about his feelings. He is entitled to be seen as virtuous without doing anything! It’s the reason he responded to me in the way that he did. Please do not over look the condescending nature of his comments and reply guying behavior. I tried gently to explain it but all I got were nit picks.
Another issue with men in FOSS is tone policing. Look at how entitled he felt to tell me how I had to respond how this woman had to title it for her to be credible.
And here it is again. I was thoughtful and constructive until I was talked to like someone who didn’t know anything. I NEVER COMPLAINED ABOUT THE DOWNVOTES. I complained about the men who were so sensitive they cannot take any notion that they might be responsible. They downvote her post (edit) not (edit) because they dislike it, it’s about overpowering her perspective. It’s about speaking over her. It’s about isolating the issue to India so they cannot be held accountable
Notice how when a woman makes a point “complaining” is the way it’s described. No one stopped to see I was making a point.
Any man who understands this knows not to downvote. They know not to put down women speaking up. They know how to read and listen and try not to repeat the behavior that perpetuates the abuse in her life. They read that and think “have i done any of this”, “have I acted in a way which enables anything she has described?”. And then they become better men overtime.
And the other thing here is watch I’m gonna call it out before it happens I will be framed as rude or argumentative because I dared to speak the truth about how women are treated by shitty men.