I think I’ve settled on the latter. Disagreement is maybe best communicated by the absence of an upvote? And downvotes work best when they signal something that is just off base, and while not reportable, is not appreciated at a broad cultural level.
I feel that should be balanced with: this is appropriate here so I won’t downvote it, even if it’s irrelevant to me.
… I suppose for big communities that averages out so it’s okay, but maybe not for small
Yeah true! I guess there’s some subtle complexities to it